The Sand Grit in the Oyster That Makes the Pearl : Pell-Mell, Limited : 9780985328238 : 0985328231 : 30 Apr 2017 : At the age of 60, and after 25 years of being a single parent with a professional career as a feminist film theorist, a Distinguished Professor Emerita of Art History, Patricia began an unexpected relationship with a very successful, charismatic business man-- soon resigning her position at the University and moving to Northern California. With Jonathan and her two Cairn Terriers. Although she was a seasoned Siddha Yoga meditator, with a beloved Guru, she was unprepared for the havoc a relationship could trigger. To learn how to live harmoniously, 24/7, with another became her life's work. Thus began her exploration of Buddhist teachings about the emotions, and our reactions to other's emotions. This is the sand grit of the title, the pain of reactions which Patricia openly reveals. It is also the pearl -- for the result, a loving and supportive partnership in old age, is