Can you approach love in a way that opens your eyes rather than blinds you Can you love passionately, compassionately, and dispassionately all at once Can you love non-possessively but with commitment Can you love inquiringly, bringing benefit to your beloveds What is the relationship between your spiritual life and embodied love How are we each to engage this great life adventure, in spite of our unique wounds In this book filled with passion, compassion, and dispassion, Hilary Bradbury and Bill Torbert go way, way out on a limb. Sharing their erotic autobiographies with us - the beautiful and the ugly - starting with the history of their relationship with one another as professor and student, they invite exploration of the secret places where true love gets lived and gets crushed. They ask us to reflect on our own stories of love and loss as a way to re-imagine the whole world of erotic friendship in more life affirming ways, at home, at play and at work. Coaxing love under the sign